Here’s the problem. A lot of us absorb our standards. We didn’t really intensely think about them. We definitely did not agonize over them. In fact, in many cases, it would seem like we just blindly or mindlessly absorb them.
Believe it or not, there’s a lot of power in letting go and moving on. I know it doesn’t feel like it. I know that at this point, you are focusing on what happened in the past. You’re thinking that if you were to keep dwelling on what happened, maybe you will be able to figure it out.
Can you imagine trying to change other people?
They have their own lives to live. They have their own agendas. They have their own paths through life. You cannot control them. Nobody has that kind of power.
A lot of people who suffer from perfectionism think that their belief system leads them to better performance. They think that it pushes them to be better than they normally would be. There’s some truth to this, but it depends on how you play it.
By the same token, nobody’s an angel. Even people you know who are really kind, compassionate, loving, giving, and good can wake up on the wrong side of the bed from time to time. Usually, it takes just one bad day for the demonic side of a person who’s otherwise a full time angel to show up. What do you do when those days come? How do you deal with that?
